This is a question that comes up time and time again in our bootcamps, and while being true to yourself is important, there are various attributes that you can be aware of and aim to implement.
So what exactly is it that women look for in men?
Confidence is absolutely key. Women want to see confidence in a man, especially when a man first approaches them because it helps to put them at ease.
Just make sure you don’t confuse it with arrogance. This can often be a negative side effect of faking confidence, so it is important that you put some work into building your core confidence and get to a place where you don’t feel intimidated by a beautiful woman, because you know that you are enough.
If you haven’t already read our blog on how to be more confident then click here to check it out.
Honesty is the best policy.
Now that doesn’t mean being bluntly honest.
“Yes, your bum does look big in that” is 100% likely to cause offense – difficult questions can be answered honestly if some tact is employed!
What it means is maintaining honesty about who you are, what you want and what you think of her.
Girls can sniff out flattery in a second, when you compliment her, make sure it comes from a genuine place. When you talk about your life and your ambitions, don’t exaggerate and tell wild stories just to impress her.
Talking with passion about what you genuinely want from life will be enough, and she’ll appreciate that you’re speaking from the heart.
When you meet someone new, try to avoid the trap of word-vomiting all over her with every aspect of yourself and life.
It’s so easy for guys to start waffling on about every great achievement and talent they have in a bid to impress.
But no one likes to play pass the parcel and unwrap every layer on the first go – it spoils the intrigue and there’s nothing exciting left to find.
The best way to approach this is to take your time, give her bits of information about yourself here and there and focus on getting to know as much as you can about her.
When she has to work hard to find out more about you, she’ll be investing back into you – a sure sign she’s interested.
You’ll probably find that if you’re a little vague when answering some of her questions, she’ll find herself wondering about you even more after the night is over. You’ll be exactly where you want to be – on her mind!
An Alpha Male
Now we all know that most girls love to be the boss, but having desire for an alpha male that takes control is heavily engrained through time into their psyche.
We touched on this in our last blog, but being decisive and making decisions about what to do, where to eat and what movie to see are all great ways of demonstrating that you are an alpha male.
There are other ways too, though. For instance, rising above jealousy. A true alpha doesn’t let himself show too much jealousy because he knows that no other guy can compete.
Girls are pros at slipping in ways to see if you’re the jealous type. Be aware and don’t fall foul of her test.
Also, it can be easy to get defensive when a girl takes the mick and throws a little banter your way.
Resist that urge and throw some banter back. Alphas aren’t sensitive snowflakes, they give as good as they get. So join in with her and just have fun with it.
Have a Good Sense of Humour
Girls have more complicated emotions than men. They feel more of an emotional rollercoaster as they make their way through life and if they’ve had a stressful week at work or uni, then a guy with a great sense of humour that can really make them laugh is definitely going to go down well.
Ever wonder why you’re girl mate has that crazy crush on Russell Howard? It’s not his looks that’s for sure. This is exactly why.
Now we’re not saying you need to become a stand-up comedian, just focus on having fun with her and keeping things light-hearted.
Try not to take life too seriously and don’t be afraid of a little self-deprecation now and again. It won’t undermine your confidence. In fact, it will show that you don’t take yourself too seriously either and that you have the confidence to laugh about yourself.
She’ll love it!
So, we’ve covered the important aspects of what women look for in men, but if there’s anything you feel you want to add then please feel free to drop a comment below!