We all love the gym for letting loose with a workout, but it can also be a great place to meet new people, including girls.
But when it comes to approaching a girl in the gym, remember what we’ve taught you about day game is key. (If you haven’t read that one yet you can find it here)
Remember – Confidence and Headspace
Have a bit of a workout first with your headphones in, tunes banging and get yourself into that positive frame of mind.
Remind yourself that any girl in this place would be lucky to be approached by you and that you don’t need gimmicks, chat up lines or major tactics. You are enough.
Think About Eye Contact and Body Language
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again. Eye contact is key.
Your focus needs to be on connecting with her straight away.
Not connecting with the floor, not connecting with the wall and definitely not connecting with the arse of the girl doing squats just three feet away.
And remember to keep your stance relaxed, lean back and focus on alleviating any initial tension.
Girls can be a little nervous when approached by someone they don’t know.
Respecting their personal space can make the difference between being the creepy guy in her face and the nice guy getting to know her.
Consider Social Pressure
When you’re out in a club it’s socially acceptable to approach women. It’s the standard done thing.
In the gym, however, it’s not necessarily expected.
A girl goes to the gym to get a good workout into her day, not to be preyed upon by guys who want to get in her pants.
This links in with what we discussed about body language and stance too.
She might feel like all eyes are upon her, so if you keep a chilled vibe, appear relaxed in your stance and avoid being too loud, she’ll be less worried about who is watching as you won’t be drawing unwanted attention to the both of you.
Just bear this in mind when you make your approach and don’t go in wanting anything from her.
Don’t try and get her number. Don’t ask her out on a date right away. Make it clear that you know that your decision to approach is random and unexpected.
It works well to include this in your opening statement along with a genuine and honest compliment.
Just introduce yourself like so: “Hi, I know this is a little odd me just randomly coming over, but I’ve only seen you a few times, and you’re just so cute, I had to come and introduce myself. I’m (Insert name here).”
If she responds well and engages with you back, perhaps by offering her own name in return, then that’s a great sign.
Don’t Get in the Way of her Workout
Girls like a genuine approach wherever they happen to be, but if they want to get some training in they aren’t going to want to be interrupted for too long.
Be smooth in this situation and be in and out fairly quickly. It’s likely that you’ll run into her regularly if you’re both members and keen to train.
So just say something along the lines of: “Well, great to meet you, I don’t want to get in the way of your workout, but I do hope I’ll see you here again sometime.”
A statement like that, without a request for her number or a date, backs up what you already said.
That you just wanted to introduce yourself. It makes you stand out, particularly against the barrage of guys sliding into her inbox, desperate to get something from her.
Now when they do that, it will work in your favour. She’ll remember the cool guy at the gym who handled it in the right way.
Fortune is in the Follow-Up
Play the long game here. When you see her there again on another day, remember her name and say “Hi” in a casual – possibly even cheeky – way.
An example could be: “Hey trouble, good to see you again. How are you doing?”
The conversation should flow naturally, maybe throw in a question or two about what she’s been up to lately, but keep it brief and again, get back to your workout.
Let the attraction build gradually over a few separate, short conversations. In time, she’ll be thinking about you between gym visits. Then when you do suggest a date, she’ll be more than ready to say yes.
When the time comes, keep the date suggestion casual, fun and not too formal.
Avoid the typical dinner date. Perhaps there’s a local event or festival that you and your mates were going to hit but they let you down. Even if they didn’t she won’t know that. Suggest it to her and if she agrees then get her number and text her later on to confirm.
As always, we hope that our advice on approaching a girl in the gym has been helpful. We do like to be kept entertained by your tales of success and woe, so please do come back and let us know how you get on in the comments below.